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Comment on In search of connection by A Duck out of Water « The Smiling Duck

A Duck out of Water « The Smiling Duck — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 02:59:58 +0000

[...] the differences, I have also come to understand that I can’t bridge them. Call it my last and greatest failure in connecting here, if you want to, but I need to go [...]

Comment on To Pee or Not to Pee by middleofthepond

middleofthepond — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:09:18 +0000

The thing is, as much as I would like to other women to actually LOOK at me before they freak out, I do also understand that some men are dangerous to women and it is not unreasonable for them/us to be wary when it seems as if our space is invaded. Personally, I would just like there to be “family” bathrooms everywhere. That way I can take our 7-year-old boy in and not send him alone into a men’s bathroom. And the men I know with young daughters can avoid having to take them into men’s restrooms, which is REALLY problematic.

Comment on To Pee or Not to Pee by malcolmhardwell

malcolmhardwell — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 20:10:29 +0000

This is a perpetual problem and I go back and forth between finding it my responsibility not to scare people as you say and figuring they need to deal and loosen up about gender presentation.

Pretty much, I avoid all bathrooms except my own or the ones where it is a single room with a door that locks. And even those people seem to want to police, as if it matters whether I go into a room with a skirt-wearing figure or a pants-wearing one!

Comment on Can I Help you, Sir… Ma’am…Nevermind by malcolmhardwell

malcolmhardwell — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:11:14 +0000

So, a question–do you correct people when they say “sir”? Sounds like you didn’t in Japan: did that feel strange to you, at the same time as a relief?

(I know this is an old post, but I just found it after writing a post related to this issue.)

Comment on Old news, but I can’t help but wonder… by throughthestorm

throughthestorm — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 05:45:58 +0000

Your observations about the Haggard affair are spot on. On my blog I just posted on suicide and the push to classify ex-gay ministries under hate crime legislation here in Canada… I’m beginning to see how dangerous fundamentalism can be towards many of us, even though I did not experience it in this way.

I think power and control is part of the issue… keeping Haggard out of visibility is a form of damage control – an attempt to minimize the effects of his “struggles” on those who see him in ministry, to minimize the ramifications of his next “fall”, and to deny the fact that he has not changed. If it were to become obvious that he has not changed, then the message of the evangelical church (“change is possible”) will be compromised, and more scandal will result.

As time goes on, the world will realize that more moderate or liberal churches (and even the Roman Catholics, who at least recognize that orientation change is not likely), are better at being honest instead of making sensational claims about change…

Comment on How many of us must die? by thismomentnow

thismomentnow — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 22:05:09 +0000

You have written beautifully. This is something that I needed to read.
Thank you.

Comment on How many of us must die? by Tarald Stein

Tarald Stein — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 03:26:04 +0000

Thanks for reminding me! Keep fighting!

Comment on While the breast parade passes by… by middleofthepond

middleofthepond — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 17:13:13 +0000

Now that is what I call a perfect moment: reading a well-written article in the company of a centerfold.

Comment on While the breast parade passes by… by linaria

linaria — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:31:17 +0000

K. (my partner) has a fetish for old playboys. She bought this ENORMOUS box of them on ebay last year and we have slowly been working our way through them….reading the articles.

No, really! The articles and interviews are amazing. One of the issues also has an illustrated version of Goblin Market which is like nothing I’ve ever seen before.

But I will admit we do currently have Miss June 1968 adorning our bedroom wall.

Comment on If there is a choice between crying and snarling, snarl. by middleofthepond

middleofthepond — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 14:31:39 +0000

You may have hit the nail on the head. Perhaps we are all, in our own little corners of adulthood, stumbling around generally under-trained for the experience.